Physical (Over protective) Mother

Note: (This is the extreme case of this personality, also physical in this case means extrovert.) 

Dear Physical Mother,

Please put your child down and back away slowly… lol.  What a perfect mother you are.  Your attentiveness and your awareness of your child’s every move and thought are to be commended.  If more people would show the care and concern that you do for your child there’d be less room for random events occurring in the lives of our future societal custodians.  Your family looks nice, eats well and stays active in current events.  People mistake your love and attention for being over protective and they don’t understand that what goes on in ‘your’ house is none of their business. Your husband or boyfriend may tell you to stop baby-ing your child but your protective nature wards off any who dare challenge your authority.  Physical mother, thank you for your unconditional love.

That was the good part…

Here are some ways to enhance your home environment for the better.  First…there is a such thing as loving too much.  The undying love that you show to your child will ultimately result in hate and disdain from your child. Without autonomy (one’s ability to make decisions for themselves), your child will become dependent on you for most of their decision-making.  God forbid that anything should ever happen to you, your child will be left without a guide and will only then begin to grow up; unfortunately sometimes too late.  The resentment will come from them wanting to be left alone and not always having someone looking over their shoulder to see if they’re doing things right.  This also makes for an emotional (withdrawn) child or what most women hate…a momma’s boy.  Remember that in oder for two personalities to coexist, one has to make room for the other.  So, if your personality is huge and fills a room, you will only be surrounded by people whose personality can endure the weight of yours…or there’ll be problems.  What you’re meaning for good is resulting in a problem for someone else.  I know you’d say “that’s ok he/she can come back and live with me.”  Uh, stop that…that is not healthy for your child.

As it relates to a mate,  your mate ‘should’ again be someone who accommodates your personality.  This means the more of a physical that you are, the more of an emotional you’ll need to exist in peace.  It’s normally the physical woman who says, “I want a man who can handle me.” The type of man who could ‘handle’ you would be a physical.  The only problem with this scenario is that he’d try to turn you into an emotional (introvert or submissive)… that’s not going to workout too well for you.  The type of guy that would ‘balance’ you is the one that you probably can’t stand in a relationship but makes a great friend…the emotional.  Now if you’re wondering why most of the guys that you meet at the club don’t quite workout in long-term relationships, it’s because they’re just like you – a physical.  The type of guy that you really need is probably at home on the computer…yes I know you know the type.  This guy is the one that can settle you down when you’re too anxious.  He’s the voice of reason when things get out of control.  He’s not a loser or less than a man because he procrastinated when it comes to confronting challenging situations or making a payment arrangement for that matter.  He’s a thinker you’re the do-er.  He also doesn’t do confrontation well…this is why he normally backs down or walks away from any sign of an issue.  If we’d allow each person to play their role and not try to make them into ourselves  life would become a lot easier.

I’ll say this in closing; there is no right or wrong as it relates to each personality, there are only differences.  Physical mother I beg of you to balance your love and affection for your child and your mate.  Our gifts when not used correctly turn into curses.  Balance is the key to life and what better talents to balance than love and affection.

– Dehypnotize

P.S. The next post will be on the Emotional Mother…

20 responses to “Physical (Over protective) Mother

  1. Fascinating and insightful reading. I think I might have been a little too smothering now that I read this. Oh well, at least my kids are grown and aren’t living with me, so phew!

    • Hey Yvette, thanks for stopping by and commenting. I agree but in the case of danger the job of both parents are never over. This was not to say don’t care about your child rather try to find the right balance of care and affection. It is said that too much of anything can be bad for you…thanks again!

  2. I take pictures for Santa, and I deal with a lot of crazy, over-loving parents. Some of them will try for ten minutes to make a crying child smile for a picture with Santa.

    Even more related to your post, some will go up to Santa with their child and do all the talking. The child basically just sits there while the mother or father has the conversation with Santa for the child.

  3. Like this post. This reminded me much of my own childhood and my dear mother who ’till this day takes offense when I don’t think or act like her. Now that I have my own children it is so hard not to repeat the same mistakes; but I am trying!

    • Hey Carola, thanks for dropping by and don’t worry the ‘perfect’ parent doesn’t exist. We’re just trying to do a little better than the one’s that came before us. 🙂

  4. Very interesting and thought provoking post. I have learned a lot obout personality types. And yes, you ae so right about balance. We need someone who compliments us , not someone who is like us. Thanks for teaching me today!

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