This topic is deeply rooted in cultural and religious acumen. The majority of society lives by the rule that the man is the head and this practice has guided us along our merry way for eons; but let’s put this idea through the physical (extrovert) emotional (introvert) test and see how it fares.
First let’s examine the ‘head’. Inside of our heads rest a brain (for most of us), this brain consists of two individual and unique sides. Without going through a course on neurology, let’s just say that one side is analytical and the other is creative. Both sides of the brain mostly control the complete opposite side of the body. So, it’s nearly impossible to operate with only one side of the brain functioning. One side of the brain plays a more dominant role, but if ever forced to take on the role of the other side couldn’t function even in its own duties as well as it could with the other side present. When both sides are fully operational the brain has a better chance of working to its full potential.
Now, how did it come to be that one person is named the head no matter what? Size… if I’m bigger than you or have a bigger gun so to speak, then what I say is the law. Let me give you an example of how allowing status to decide a leader is a bad example…. North Korea and many others as well but that’s just the one at the top of my head. Just because someone fits the ‘profile’ doesn’t mean they’re right for the position. It’s like having a police car with all the flashing lights but it has a Pinto engine, or an easter egg with nothing inside or…well, you get the picture. I’ve also heard it said that the man is the head because he’s more in control of his emotions and makes more logical decisions….really? We should be more focused on what the harvest of our relationships will bring not who gets to tell whom to plant the seeds.
How do the physical and emotional traits fit into this equation. Ok let’s say the woman in the relationship is the physical (extrovert) and her husband is an emotional (introvert). Well the wife is going to be more outspoken than the husband giving the appearance that she’s in charge or ‘the head’ . This will cause immediate problems for said husband because now he’s ‘less of a man’ because he doesn’t ‘rule’ his house. The wife is only being herself and will find herself not being herself if she has to ‘bow down’ to this less of a man. This leads to the feeling of being trapped or imposed on by an outside force and causes more of an acting out in the relationship; now each person has something to prove to the other… or so they think. The marriage is doomed for failure before it even gets started good…
Let’s say it’s a physical husband and an emotional wife. The physical male is normally bossy, short-tempered and spontaneous all at the same time. The emotional wife is the analytical one, she likes to think things alllll the way through before making a move… if she ever makes one. So, the balance that can be obtained in this relationship is never realized because the husband will ‘typically’ not listen to the wife in important matters. She takes to long to say it or she’s so ‘sensitive’ she makes more of things than they actually are and she’s always nagging. Physicals based on their need to express everything they feel ‘physically’ are normally not very astute with their finances. As I’ve said before they’re as good at spending money as they are making it. The lucky ones find a way to make more than they could possibly spend…then they lose their minds! lol
So, who should be the head in these scenarios? I’ll give you a hint… it’s just like our brains. Both sides/heads are contained in the head/house for balance and it’s not until both sides are working together properly as ONE head that the relationship can function and grow to its full potential!
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