A Lady in the streets and a Freak in the sheets

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This is a common phrase used by many men to describe the type of woman they consider to be marriage material.  Women will also say they want a sensitive man that knows how to get a little rough when the moment calls for it.  In each of these scenarios, what’s being described is a person of balance.

This is an example of an Emotional suggestible and a Physical sexual. This is a woman who carries herself in a more conservative fashion while out in public but is unstoppable in the bedroom.  Most men will go for the quiet passive type for long-term relationship purposes but they’ll cheat on her with the ‘freak in the sheets’ type.  This is where the idea that men are never satisfied comes from.  No matter how much the main girl does at home it’s never enough. Why is this?  It’s because the very thing that makes her a conservative in public makes her conservative at home.  The Emotional sexual is not connected to their physical body the way the Physical sexual is.  She needs to be warmed up before jumping right into sex, this brings their feelings to the surface.  She’s normally not a risk taker and will chastise him for being too much of a risk taker.  The man becomes frustrated by her lack of sexual energy and the ‘I don’t do that type of thing’ attitude and will find someone else who will ‘do that type of thing’.  She finds out that he’s cheating, will not understand why and begins to blame herself for his actions or just tells him to get out and the

relationship is destroyed.

Now, none of this applies if you’re not in a serious relationship or marriage.  However, if you are looking to be with this person for the rest of your life, there will have to be some changes.  Just because you decide that since you’ve never done a particular thing that you never will doesn’t mean that your mate is going to say “Oh ok, then I don’t want to do it either”.  It’s just like squeezing a water balloon, the bubble will just pop up somewhere else.  So, aside from causing physical harm to yourself or going against your morals there should not be anything that you wouldn’t do for one another; especially if you’re married.  Imagine living the rest of your life not being able to get what you want from the person you love just because they don’t want to…not a good feeling.  If you’d like to bring scripture into this look up (Hebrews 13:4  “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled”).  Chastity before marriage is great but chastity after marriage is a disaster.

There is more to this story such as the man that doesn’t want intimacy as much as the woman or how much is too much, but I’m trying to keep this as short as possible.  So the bottom line is, once you’ve found that special someone, go all out for them as they should be going all out for you.  This way they don’t even have the energy to see the freak in the streets.

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14 responses to “A Lady in the streets and a Freak in the sheets

  1. Awesome write up! If more people could understand what you’re saying i think relationships would be a lot better. It’s what you know that helps us make better choices. And what we don’t know causes us to make choices that destroy us in the long run. Thanks and please keep blogging!

  2. To be honest, that’s not the reason men cheat. Ever hear of the Bunny Ranch? I learned about it in my Examined Life Class, I forget if it was an article or a T.V. Special. Anyways, The Bunny Ranch is a prostitution place where men buy sex. It’s a real place in Nevada. Well, a few of the ladies were interviewed and they said a lot of men came in and actually paid them, not for sex, but just for someone to talk to. Why is that? It was because a lot of men had wives who just didn’t want to listen, which is entirely different from obey. See, their wives and girlfriends just didn’t want to hear what they had to see. Their wives would also get angry and mad at them.

    One thing I learned from sociology is that you can learn a lot just by observing and the truth of the matter, a lot of guys are actually more introverted and emotional then women are. It’s true. Women are more vocal than men.

    But you are right, there is a lack of balance when it comes to relationships turning sour. That’s why a lot of divorces happen due to irreconcilable differences. Yeah, no duh there are differences, but when there’s too much sacrifice and not enough compromise….well…

    • Well I have to say anytime you put ‘the’ as opposed to ‘a’ reason you set yourself up for opposition. So, you’re correct that its not the ‘only’ reason men cheat, it’s the reason that personality type cheats. As I mentioned, this is way too long to describe in a couple of paragraphs but hopefully someone is able to get something from the little that’s there. Your follow up helps bring another side into view for those that see it that way also. Thanks for your thoughts!!!

      • No problem. Actually, that’s a good point you bring up with using ‘the’ and ‘a’. Writing philosophy papers; those things HAVE to be paid attention to. Well, now anyone who reads this post will know now. It’s a good thing people like us are able to get into some deep, thought sharing, intellectual discussions. It’s the only way to learn.

  3. Reblogged this on Walks of Faith and commented:
    I think this a;so works both ways. I am female and I can totally fit into the man’s shoes here. The whole world doesnt have to know what we get up to, be the gentleman in the street, and my freak in bed. That way I dont have to go looking for adventure elsewhere.

    • lol…I know what you mean, trust me! I intend to write one on this topic as well. The one thing I want to get out there is that men are not supposed to be one way and women another, it’s more about the personality traits. When we get this we’ll have a lot less stress in our relationships!! Thank you so much for reading and commenting and reblogging…lol

  4. hm, A Lady in the streets and a Freak in the sheets, I understand what you mean in here but I guess man should be more open when it comes to this matter, I do believed in open way communication, if you want it and your partner doesn’t want to, then explain and let her understand the essence of this matter, because for me it is not a valid reason to cheat if your partner is lacking on this side….

    • Hey willofheart, I agree there is no excuse for cheating in any case. My point here is to bring awareness to one of the reasons men AND women would cheat if they feel neglected. In the end it comes back to communication…I guess it all does.

      • lol, just making an argument in here, by the way just like walksoffaith said I am waiting for your post about A man in the streets and a Freak in the sheets…. 😉

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