My wife invited a co-worker to our home the other day for a brief business meeting. After sitting and discussing a pending sale for a few moments, the co-worker asks, “I’m sorry could I bother you for a drink?” My wife, immediately apologizes for failing to offer before being asked and replies “Sure, of course!” Before she’s able to complete the sentence, her guest pops up, walks up the stairs into the kitchen and finally into the refrigerator to claim her just reward. (Insert sound of tires screeching to a halt.)
Now, I don’t know how you were raised but in our house it was forbidden and punishable by death to walk through someone’s house as a guest without first being invited to do so; let alone go into their refrigerator… please. So my wife scurries to corral the run-away guest and helps her back to her ‘rightful’ place in the den with her drink in hand.
So, later that evening we began to discuss the event over dinner. We had a similar up-bringing as it related to the matter so we both agreed that it was a little strange. We then started to compare stories of other friends who’ve had similar experiences and their take on the matter. Some people don’t seem to have an issue with this behavior and you could actually go into their homes and do the same thing, no problems.
So, I started to look at the subconscious behavior behind the physical act. She expressed that she wanted something and she got up and made it happen. She didn’t wait for the moment to be just right, she didn’t even ask for directions to the kitchen, she just went for it. That’s a learned behavior.
How many of us are sitting around waiting for that glass of water to be brought to us? How much longer are you going to wait for it? How would you know what was actually put into the glass? And we looked at her as if she were the strange one….