As it relates to mood and sex,….sigh…yes, men do in fact have cycles. In the emotionally sexual male it appears, at times, as a lack of interest in their partner. It’s expressed as an over-active sex drive in the physically sexual male. By the way, women fall into one or the other category as well.
Let’s start with the emotional. As it relates to sex, the emotional operates somewhat like a battery; after being used, he may require time to recharge. That’s not to say that they can’t perform everyday, it’s just not likely to be the same enegy level each time. Each person’s cycle is different. They could be on a 1-7 day cycle or more as I recently discovered while working with a client.
The emotional is typically not up for physical touch after sex. They’ve had their fill of physical contact for that moment. Touch feels irritating to them and their bodies may even tend to be cold, until their next cycle day. So, how do you know when that ‘cycle day is? When they begin to show more interest in you physically that’s a good indicator. That’s when their batteries have fully recharged and they’re ready.
Why is that? Well, emotional’s are not as ’emotionally’ connected to their bodies as the physicals are; remember they internalize and analyze their feelings. Therefore, the mind has to rejuvenate the body. During this time don’t expect a lot of affection or attention… they are not ‘feeling it’.
The physical on the other hand expresses their emotions with their body so you may find that they can do it five times a day or more in some cases. They don’t mind cuddling afterwards either, for the most part. The cycle of the physical is much more frequent than that of the emotional. They typically don’t ‘release’ as much as the emotional each time and are therefore able to release multiple times. That’s not to say (again) that there’ll be fireworks each time; it’s just that its possible to do it. The physical may become very irritated if they’re not able to release all of this energy within their cycle time frame; but more importantly, their physical body’s will display signs of stress… really.
The key here is to understand your own behaviour or cycle in an effort to get it into sync with your partner’s. The physical could indeed influence the emotional’s cycle by only approaching them only on their cycle days; which will require something that the physical typically runs short on…patience. However, the sex will be ten times better, from there start approaching one day earlier and take the time to get them ‘warmed up’. So now a seven-day cycle becomes a six-day and so on…
In closing, no matter who or what you ultimately choose to be in relationship with, they’re going to be your opposite; that’s what attracted you to them. This means that there will be issues. No Matter What! So if you know this before hand, why not be prepared to solve them creatively as opposed to allowing your differences to end what always starts as a beautiful romance.
– Thanks Dr. Kappas