Stay Prayed Up (Kandi Burruss – Marvin Sapp)


 

Looks like the critics were wrong about this one…too. Kandi Burruss and Marvin Sapp’s Stay Prayed Up made it to #1 on itunes Gospel charts. Hold up, the queen of reality tv sex toys has the #1 gospel song? That just can’t be!

Well obviously it can be and it is. People are so busy and quick to judge others that they don’t have time to see the error in their own ways. Most of those talking are the ones at the club Sunday morning rushing home to get a couple hours of sleep before showing up to sing in the choir in the first service.  Kandi in my opinion is openly displaying what so many of us do a horrible job of concealing. We all have more than one side to our personalities, it’s the denial of this fact that burdens us with so much unnecessary stress.

Who can say to Ms. Burruss that she shouldn’t make a song about what she believes? To say so would only be stating what you believe…(smh). How long must we endure the wrath of the unlearned? How long must we be subjected to the unconscious and willfull ignorance of the majority?

I read an article the other day about a woman who was arrested for selling adult toys. I thought that to be strange so I read on. Come to find out that it wasn’t because she was selling the toys, it was because she didn’t call them novelty items. It’s apparently against the law to sell adult toys and call it that in that county (this was in TX).

Throughout history man has struggled with the concept of sex; be it about homosexuality, sex before/ during marriage, masturbation etc.. It seems that we’ve put the so-called shame of sex at the forefront of our very existence and we’re baffled by the confusion that has followed. It’s not complicated at all, either become non-human or accept the whole of you that is human. Things only become taboo when you’re told not to do them…

See Also :  https://dehypnotize.wordpress.com/2012/10/29/kandi-koated-nights-by-kandi-burruss/

Dehypnotize –

How to Dehypnotize


Can you be hypnotized?

Most people would reject the notion that  they’re capable of being hypnotized… because they don’t believe in such foolishness.  Being hypnotized is for weak-minded people they say.

I’m not really mad at them for thinking this way since it’s only due to misinformation about this topic.  If you’ve ever watched television, speak a language, learned thewords to a song, if you’ve ever read a book etc. you’ve been hypnotized.  Hypnosis is simply being open to suggestions while in a relaxed, hyper – state of awareness.  Think about when your favorite song is on, you tune everything out around you and you’re focused on every word the artist says.  The more you hear it, the more words you remember, but more importantly, you’re connecting with how it makes you feel.

 

 

Physical and Emotional

I’ve written a bit about the Physical and the Emotional behaviors because your personality determines what you’re most suggestible to.  Physicals are more suggestible to tangible things or objects, Emotionals are more suggestible to words or intellectual stimulation.  This is why one person remembers the scene in a movie and the other remembers the dialogue.

Once you’ve determined what your suggestibility is, you may then begin to suggest to yourself only the things that fit your life’s goal.  You’ll become aware of things that  are being suggested to you, but now you’ll be able to decide what to accept and what not to accept.  By the way, every conversation is a battle of suggestions.  The language that we use in conversation is based on our own suggestibility.  If you’d like to be more efficient when communicating, use the other person’s suggestibility while communicating with them.

What does this have to do with dehypnotizing?

To dehypnotize means to become aware.  Aware of how you take things and how you act on what you’ve interpreted to be reality.  Why do you dress conservatively, or why are you a flashy dresser?  Why are you so passionate or why are you seen as emotionless.  These are all results of your suggestibility and how you’ve responded.

When you can zero yourself out (as I like to call it) meaning no people, no suggestions, no interruptions, no thoughts, you can begin the process of dehypnotizing yourself.  Once you’re at zero, now  input what  you’d like for yourself into your subconscious mind and it becomes reality, just like learning the words to that song.

Reality becomes different once you see the world from the inside out, or by cause and effect.

 

-Dehypnotize

– Note – If you’ve hypnotized someone literally and you can’t seem to  ‘un’hypnotize them,  contact a professional who should ‘re’hypnotize them to bring them out of the hypnotic state.

 

Logically Emotional


One doesn’t have to become a nueroscientist to understand that there are two sides of the brain and we tend to lean more to one side than the other.  What we typically fail to realize however, is how important learning the other side really is.  Take a look at the chart below:

 

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Which side best describes you most of the time?  Are you equally represented on both sides?  Which characteristics are presented that you don’t have but would like to?  Let’s take a look at how the our suggestibility and sexuality are represented in this chart.  Suggestibility being how we learn and Sexuality being how we act.

The Right brain or Physical behavior typically lives life from the present into the future whereas the Left brain lives from the future back to the present.  Meaning that the physical lives more for the moment and whatever happens, happens (feelings).  The Emotional makes present decisions based on what they perceive the future results will  be (analytical).  We call this the devil and the angel on our shoulder, one side is saying “Do it! Do it!”  While the other side is saying, ” think….about…ittttt.”  This means that we all have both sides, we simply suppress the subdominant side.  When we meet someone who is our opposite, we’re subconsciously aware of and a lot of times attracted to this behavior; only to become an enemy of it later.

Our opposites represent the physical manifestation of the other side of our brains.  This is what causes most of the troubles in relationships as it relates to communicating; which side is more dominant?  If one person feels that they’re not getting their fair amount of representation, they’ll begin to become more exaggerated in their behavior.  The emotional will become more distant and the physical will become more excited.  Bom …Bom…Bommm…and the fighting begins.

The riddle here is for each side to learn the other for your own development.  There are four parts to the equation, physical/emotional suggestible – physical/emotional sexual.  This means that there are two ways that we see and do things (physical or sexuality) and two ways that we hear and interpret things (emotional or suggestibility).  Ironically, we have two eyes, two ears, two sides to the testicles and the ovaries…all physical manifestations.  I’m beginning to think that there’s something behind this opposites thing.

I guess it all comes back down to learning who and what you are, the good and the bad if you want to call it that. Once we obtain that balance within ourselves, it becomes easier to recognize and or build it in someone else.  Alternating current or direct current mean nothing seperately, it’s not until they come together in a balanced equation do they make electricity or give power.

Our successes or failures come from the suggestions that have been placed in front of us along the way and how we’ve responded to them.  If you look closely at the brain it kind of looks like a maze;  it’s like we spend the majority of our lives trying to find a way out of it never realizing that the only way out is through.

 

– Dehypnotize

Evelyn Lozada – Ochocinco Back Together?


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When I first heard the news of the Evelyn and Chad (Ochocinco) Johnson fight, I wasn’t the least bit surprised.  Due to their Physical natures this was bound to happen sooner or later.  Shortly after hearing the news I published a post about how I thought this would turn out (see The Chad Johnson Evelyn Lozada – Therapy ).  In short, my take on this was, because they are the same personality type that they would seem to love each other like they’ve never loved before.  They’d see the turbulence in their relationship as passion and eventually they’d get back together in some capacity.  Since I’m no fortune teller, I left room for my prediction to be wrong… As I scanned the headlines of the day here’s what I found: Evelyn Lozada Wants To End No-Contact Order Against Chad Johnson (http://www.inquisitr.com/380022/evelyn-lozada-wants-to-end-no-contact-order-against-chad-johnson/)

Now this doesn’t mean that they’re back together and everything is fine, but it is a step in that direction.  You see, the thing with Physicals is that they are very connected to their emotions at any given moment which gives the appearance of being unbalanced, hot-headed, bi-polar, passionate and many more emotional labels.  Put two people of this personality together and get ready for the fireworks.

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As I’ve mentioned before, two emotionals together don’t fare much better.  Two Emotionals will take each other completely wrong and sabotage the relationship without ever knowing what went wrong.  Emotionals can be too ‘deep’ for there own good.  In the process of over analyzing everything, they neglect external communication and appear to be anti-social.

The best thing for any relationship is to be with your opposite.  Yes this has it’s own challenges as well but they come from not wanting to learn from the other behavior.  The brain is made up of a left side and a right side.  You lean more to one side than you do the other, your partner should lean to the opposite side.  This creates an environment for you to learn the side that you’re not using consciously.

This may sound too simple to be taken seriously, but this is the answer to all of our communication challenges.  I wish Chad and Evelyn the best in their future, but I’m also looking forward to see what entertaining news develops from this ongoing reality show.

– Dehypnotize

Is it Lust or Love?


                                                                 Lust is a passionate or overmastering desire or craving….(Physically)

 

                                                   Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment… (Emotionally)