Another Teen Shot in FL (Jodan Davis)


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Another life has been senselessly taken far too early.  Michael Dunn has been charged with 2nd degree murder, for the shooting and killing of teen Jordan Davis, after an argument over loud music at a gas station.  Read the full story here :http://news.yahoo.com/video/man-charged-killing-teen-over-234016693.html

As these same stories continue to play out in the media, it’s almost becoming what’s to be expected; including the backlash.  I’ve already read and heard the racial tension in this story beginning to build.  The sad part is that this type of behavior will continue to manifest in this manner until we name the true culprit… lack of emotional control.  Color matters as much as the day that this occurred on.  What do you think Mr. Dunn is thinking now?  Probably that the loud music wasn’t that serious after all.  What about the families?  All because of a moment of emotional expression that could only be said loud enough with a gunshot…or nine!

I’ll say again that many of us could find ourselves in situations where we act before thinking and end up in less than desired situations.  When we respond to provocation around us, we become susceptible to whatever that energy brings to the table; now you’re in react – react mode.  It’s all goes down hill from there.

I think what’s worse is the incline in the devaluation of life.  I think the more people who inhabit the earth, the less important life actually becomes.  So, many wars, murders, rape that you almost become numb to it.  What’s going on these days?

Is vigilantism the way of the future.  Will we become destitute hermits confined by our own ways or belief systems?  This is not the future I’d like to see for my descendants.  Just as the Egyptians, the Romans, Greeks have their place in history, one day people will write about our place on the timeline…what will be our story?

– Dehypnotize

Black Friday 2012 Goes Online (Wal – Mart workers strike)


I read an article the other day about Wal – Mart employees planning a walkout on Black Friday due to the invasion of family time.  Now I can totally agree with the employees here.  At what point does family become more important than profit?  What’s the point of having holidays if you’re not able to spend them with your family?  Holidays should be a time to take a break from the everyday chaos, not a time to create more.

But why would Wal-Mart do this?  How could they be so insensitive?  Because the people have demanded it.  The earlier that people were willing to get out and stand in the cold waiting for the doors to open, the earlier the stores begin to open.  So, now it’s basic supply and demand.  So, I totally agree with Wal-mart too.

Alas, someone in operations saw the light, “Why not put Black Friday deals online?” 

“Genius!” another responded.  We’ll allow people to order online and have their products shipped directly to them! Why didn’t someone think of this before?”

“I don’t know, maybe we thought that people wouldn’t go for it.  I think people actually like standing in line, in the cold……..(fictional story).

Seriously though, are most people that suggestible that they’d continue this behavior even with the option of not having to go through it?  I certainly hope not

The site listed below is a conglomeration of all of your favorite stores including the ones offering Black Friday deals.  Some of them even give you cash back for shopping online… think of the employees…

Click below for black Friday Deals:

There are plenty of great gift ideas none like the gift of time… shop Black Friday online.

Black Friday deals online : http://www.myeconmall.com/?r=W887c878p5Q0257e

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Why Republicans don’t get the “Black Vote”


Obviously there are black Republicans but overall most in the African-American community vote Democrat.  Why is that? The last time I checked, most African-Americans disagree with Gay Marriage or Abortion according to most polls that is.  That’s funny because that’s what the Republicans stand for.  What about religious rights?  A majority (not all) in the black community believe in Christianity and everyone else is going to hell… so does the Republican agenda.

I was curious as to why the word Republican is a bad word in our community.  How is it that a party could represent a number of the same beliefs as a major demographic yet never get close to half the votes from this segment of the society? ….

It’s the language.  Democrats are seen as the party for the people and Republicans are seen as the party of old rich white men.  The problem with Republican Party is that they haven’t learned how to speak the language and no I don’t mean the lyrics to a hip hop song.  I mean they haven’t conveyed a message of care to the black community.   This is not to say that Republicans don’t care or even that its their job to, but that’s the point, people don’t respond to how things are, they respond more to how they appear to be.  Honestly, the biggest difference between most races, genders, parties or religions is… the language and language is communication and communication is behavior.   You can’t effectively spread your message until you learn the language of those with whom you’re communicating it to.  How else could you ever explain yourself?

It’s  funny how everything that happens on a microscopic scale happens on the macroscopic scale also.   What happens between political parties happens in our

personal relationships too.  We’re just little dots that make up a big picture or fractal geometric.  When these two parties were formed I can’t believe that it was based on how to best destroy a country. I’m sure the exact opposite was true, how can we make this the best country ever?  However, something gets in the way of that common goal and you already know by now what that is… Physicals vs Emotionals, Left brain vs. Right brain communication or lack thereof.  One cares about things and the other cares about feelings.  They believe the other to be sent from hell and work to eliminate this god awful threat to humanity.  Only to now become surrounded by like minds that compete for the same position.

Left or right brain, Physical or Emotional, Type A or B, Democrat or Republican, Wall Street or Main Street, it’s all opposing energy expressing itself as behavior.  One is not good and the other bad, one is not righteous and the other evil; they’re just opposites.  Right now our country is divided negatively because we choose sides to go to war instead of creating an opportunity to learn from the other.  Can you imagine where any country could be if they solved this riddle of the opposites?  What if the entire world got it?  I know that was too far.

So, to the Republican party, if you’d like to get more of the “black vote” you have to change your language, communication…behavior.  You have to communicate your message in a way that is received as caring about the people and not as pity or sympathy.  How would you do that?  Go ask!

A man who knows it all lacks heart and the man who feels it all lives in confusion but the man who knows and feels equally knows prosperity.

 

– Dehypnotize

 

 

Logically Emotional


One doesn’t have to become a nueroscientist to understand that there are two sides of the brain and we tend to lean more to one side than the other.  What we typically fail to realize however, is how important learning the other side really is.  Take a look at the chart below:

 

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Which side best describes you most of the time?  Are you equally represented on both sides?  Which characteristics are presented that you don’t have but would like to?  Let’s take a look at how the our suggestibility and sexuality are represented in this chart.  Suggestibility being how we learn and Sexuality being how we act.

The Right brain or Physical behavior typically lives life from the present into the future whereas the Left brain lives from the future back to the present.  Meaning that the physical lives more for the moment and whatever happens, happens (feelings).  The Emotional makes present decisions based on what they perceive the future results will  be (analytical).  We call this the devil and the angel on our shoulder, one side is saying “Do it! Do it!”  While the other side is saying, ” think….about…ittttt.”  This means that we all have both sides, we simply suppress the subdominant side.  When we meet someone who is our opposite, we’re subconsciously aware of and a lot of times attracted to this behavior; only to become an enemy of it later.

Our opposites represent the physical manifestation of the other side of our brains.  This is what causes most of the troubles in relationships as it relates to communicating; which side is more dominant?  If one person feels that they’re not getting their fair amount of representation, they’ll begin to become more exaggerated in their behavior.  The emotional will become more distant and the physical will become more excited.  Bom …Bom…Bommm…and the fighting begins.

The riddle here is for each side to learn the other for your own development.  There are four parts to the equation, physical/emotional suggestible – physical/emotional sexual.  This means that there are two ways that we see and do things (physical or sexuality) and two ways that we hear and interpret things (emotional or suggestibility).  Ironically, we have two eyes, two ears, two sides to the testicles and the ovaries…all physical manifestations.  I’m beginning to think that there’s something behind this opposites thing.

I guess it all comes back down to learning who and what you are, the good and the bad if you want to call it that. Once we obtain that balance within ourselves, it becomes easier to recognize and or build it in someone else.  Alternating current or direct current mean nothing seperately, it’s not until they come together in a balanced equation do they make electricity or give power.

Our successes or failures come from the suggestions that have been placed in front of us along the way and how we’ve responded to them.  If you look closely at the brain it kind of looks like a maze;  it’s like we spend the majority of our lives trying to find a way out of it never realizing that the only way out is through.

 

– Dehypnotize

Evelyn Lozada – Ochocinco Back Together?


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When I first heard the news of the Evelyn and Chad (Ochocinco) Johnson fight, I wasn’t the least bit surprised.  Due to their Physical natures this was bound to happen sooner or later.  Shortly after hearing the news I published a post about how I thought this would turn out (see The Chad Johnson Evelyn Lozada – Therapy ).  In short, my take on this was, because they are the same personality type that they would seem to love each other like they’ve never loved before.  They’d see the turbulence in their relationship as passion and eventually they’d get back together in some capacity.  Since I’m no fortune teller, I left room for my prediction to be wrong… As I scanned the headlines of the day here’s what I found: Evelyn Lozada Wants To End No-Contact Order Against Chad Johnson (http://www.inquisitr.com/380022/evelyn-lozada-wants-to-end-no-contact-order-against-chad-johnson/)

Now this doesn’t mean that they’re back together and everything is fine, but it is a step in that direction.  You see, the thing with Physicals is that they are very connected to their emotions at any given moment which gives the appearance of being unbalanced, hot-headed, bi-polar, passionate and many more emotional labels.  Put two people of this personality together and get ready for the fireworks.

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As I’ve mentioned before, two emotionals together don’t fare much better.  Two Emotionals will take each other completely wrong and sabotage the relationship without ever knowing what went wrong.  Emotionals can be too ‘deep’ for there own good.  In the process of over analyzing everything, they neglect external communication and appear to be anti-social.

The best thing for any relationship is to be with your opposite.  Yes this has it’s own challenges as well but they come from not wanting to learn from the other behavior.  The brain is made up of a left side and a right side.  You lean more to one side than you do the other, your partner should lean to the opposite side.  This creates an environment for you to learn the side that you’re not using consciously.

This may sound too simple to be taken seriously, but this is the answer to all of our communication challenges.  I wish Chad and Evelyn the best in their future, but I’m also looking forward to see what entertaining news develops from this ongoing reality show.

– Dehypnotize

Is it Lust or Love?


                                                                 Lust is a passionate or overmastering desire or craving….(Physically)

 

                                                   Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment… (Emotionally)