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Stars vs. Black Holes (Which one are you?)

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The next time you’re out on a clear night; take a look up at the stars. If you live in a rural area you know more of what the true night sky looks like than someone who lives in the city. The true night sky is amazing, almost scary when you know what you’re looking at. The ancients ordered their lives around the stars and we continue a lot of those same practices today.
I’ve always been fascinated by the idea of opposites so stars and black holes seemed to be a good analogy for the Physical (Extrovert) and Emotional (Introvert) behavior. Let’s look at some of the characteristics of both ideas.

 

Star/ Physicalfurturityorg
Shines brightly/ Likes attention
Very warm and comforting/ Like to give physical attention
Emits energy/The giver or talker not good with receiving i.e. listening
Can burn you if you get too close/ Passion can be perceived as tempers or anger
Imposes its energy on everyone/ Life of the party, knows and talks to everyone

Black hole/ Emotional
Cold dark and mysterious/ Shy ‘Emo’ type likes to wear dark colors
Draws others to them/ don’t like initiating conversation, likes for the moves to be made on them
Lives off of the energy of stars/ Likes the spontaneity of the Physical, another Emotional would bore them
Blends in to the surroundings/ doesn’t like attention, dresses very conservatively
Can never truly see what’s going on inside of them/ internalizes their feelings, considered to be deep

If you subscribe to the idea that we’re made up of the same thing as the entire universe then this actually makes a little more sense. We are simply opposing elements wrapped in a human form. Opposites have been described in too many ways to count but here are a few: Good/Evil, Cain/Abel, Horus/Set, Republican/ Democrat, Black/ White, Rich/ Poor, Christian/ Muslim, science/ religion and on and on.

It’s like marriage, the more time you spend stating and defending your way or side of doing things, the longer it’s going to take to realize your own potential. You’re supposed to be with your opposite personality to develop the other side of yourself. This creates balance and synergy and more importantly opens a new realm of possibilities in your life. How much time do we spend arguing and fighting about which side is right or wrong? I can think of so many more productive ways to spend our time and I’m sure you can as well.

The irony of this is that we all embody both sides. It’s unfortunate that we limit ourselves to one side and neglect the other due to the lack of understanding it. Our true potential as mankind can never be realized until our true potential as individuals is discovered.

I have a little secret to tell you… there is no right or wrong in this matrix, only deficiencies in the way we communicate our emotions to others.

Dehypnotize

K.C. Chiefs Jovan Belcher kills girlfriend shoots himself

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And the stories continue to come in.  I certainly hope that it’s clear how susceptible we all truly are to our own lives.  Even if it’s not you that snaps, the person you’re with could totally snap.  Would you believe that it’s due to communication deficiencies?  We are simply collections of all that’s been suggested to us and we respond accordingly… keyword respond.

Tragedies like this and so many more are avoidable if we’d only care to Dehypnotize!  We continue to use the same excuses for the same issues yet we expect different results.  Time for a shake up in the same old same…

Police aren’t yet releasing the name of the player or the girlfriend until the family has been notified. Stay tuned for updates.

 

UPDATE: Jovan Belcher, 25 is the player.  Read story here: http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nfl-shutdown-corner/report-chiefs-player-kills-girlfriend-takes-own-life-154951891–nfl.html

 

 

Another Teen Shot in FL (Jodan Davis)

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Another life has been senselessly taken far too early.  Michael Dunn has been charged with 2nd degree murder, for the shooting and killing of teen Jordan Davis, after an argument over loud music at a gas station.  Read the full story here :http://news.yahoo.com/video/man-charged-killing-teen-over-234016693.html

As these same stories continue to play out in the media, it’s almost becoming what’s to be expected; including the backlash.  I’ve already read and heard the racial tension in this story beginning to build.  The sad part is that this type of behavior will continue to manifest in this manner until we name the true culprit… lack of emotional control.  Color matters as much as the day that this occurred on.  What do you think Mr. Dunn is thinking now?  Probably that the loud music wasn’t that serious after all.  What about the families?  All because of a moment of emotional expression that could only be said loud enough with a gunshot…or nine!

I’ll say again that many of us could find ourselves in situations where we act before thinking and end up in less than desired situations.  When we respond to provocation around us, we become susceptible to whatever that energy brings to the table; now you’re in react – react mode.  It’s all goes down hill from there.

I think what’s worse is the incline in the devaluation of life.  I think the more people who inhabit the earth, the less important life actually becomes.  So, many wars, murders, rape that you almost become numb to it.  What’s going on these days?

Is vigilantism the way of the future.  Will we become destitute hermits confined by our own ways or belief systems?  This is not the future I’d like to see for my descendants.  Just as the Egyptians, the Romans, Greeks have their place in history, one day people will write about our place on the timeline…what will be our story?

– Dehypnotize

The Speed of Life

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Ever notice the difference between driving and riding in a car.  When you’re driving, you anticipate the moving and the swaying of the car as you bob and weave through traffic.  You know  when you’re going to brake or accelerate before taking the action therefore you’re ready mentally and physically when it happens.  However, when you’re the passenger, you’re at the mercy of the driver.  Your entire body reacts to their every move and you have no control over what happens next.  It’s not (all the time) really that the person can’t drive, it’s mostly that you’re not expecting what the next action so you can’t prepare for it.  I’ll come back to this in a moment.

In March of this year, sky watchers caught a fleeting glimpse of a star exploding, 33 million light years away.  Read the article here: http://www.space.com/15040-photos-supernova-m95-skywatchers.html

Okay so, what they’re saying is that, this event occurred 33 million years ago but we’re just seeing this year.  This really captured my attention and thoughts for some time now due to the implications of this phenomenon.  This would mean that if there were people in that galaxy and they could see us on Earth, they would be seeing us the way we’d be in 33 million years from now.   This just blows my mind continually.  This would also mean that right now, to them, our current place in time has already passed… 33 million years ago.  Hold on, because it gets weirder;  if you could see 33 million years in the opposite direction, we haven’t even happened yet and we won’t for another 33 million years. 

Time then, is based on our perception and perception is a result of our awareness. So basically, time is the result of our awareness.

Back to the driver and the passenger.  The driver sees things before they happen and therefore is prepared for them when they happen;  the passenger reacts to what has happened.

The term think ahead is not a misnomer.  Thinking ahead simply means to know where you’re going ahead of time, take the correct path to get there and prepare yourself for the outcome.  A thought travels at the speed of light or faster…(from the little that I know on the subject).  When traveling at the speed of light everything around you slows way down.  You’d then have to wait for everything to catch up with you…even time or at least the accepted perception of it. This is the speed of life.

We actually have a choice of the speed we’d like to go.  Are we passengers in life or drivers?  Do we create our lives or respond to them?  If we treated every minute like an hour, we could experience our own lives.  I do believe time travel is possible, we just have to understand the vehicle that we already have to get through it.

– Dehypnotize

How to Dehypnotize

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Can you be hypnotized?

Most people would reject the notion that  they’re capable of being hypnotized… because they don’t believe in such foolishness.  Being hypnotized is for weak-minded people they say.

I’m not really mad at them for thinking this way since it’s only due to misinformation about this topic.  If you’ve ever watched television, speak a language, learned thewords to a song, if you’ve ever read a book etc. you’ve been hypnotized.  Hypnosis is simply being open to suggestions while in a relaxed, hyper – state of awareness.  Think about when your favorite song is on, you tune everything out around you and you’re focused on every word the artist says.  The more you hear it, the more words you remember, but more importantly, you’re connecting with how it makes you feel.

 

 

Physical and Emotional

I’ve written a bit about the Physical and the Emotional behaviors because your personality determines what you’re most suggestible to.  Physicals are more suggestible to tangible things or objects, Emotionals are more suggestible to words or intellectual stimulation.  This is why one person remembers the scene in a movie and the other remembers the dialogue.

Once you’ve determined what your suggestibility is, you may then begin to suggest to yourself only the things that fit your life’s goal.  You’ll become aware of things that  are being suggested to you, but now you’ll be able to decide what to accept and what not to accept.  By the way, every conversation is a battle of suggestions.  The language that we use in conversation is based on our own suggestibility.  If you’d like to be more efficient when communicating, use the other person’s suggestibility while communicating with them.

What does this have to do with dehypnotizing?

To dehypnotize means to become aware.  Aware of how you take things and how you act on what you’ve interpreted to be reality.  Why do you dress conservatively, or why are you a flashy dresser?  Why are you so passionate or why are you seen as emotionless.  These are all results of your suggestibility and how you’ve responded.

When you can zero yourself out (as I like to call it) meaning no people, no suggestions, no interruptions, no thoughts, you can begin the process of dehypnotizing yourself.  Once you’re at zero, now  input what  you’d like for yourself into your subconscious mind and it becomes reality, just like learning the words to that song.

Reality becomes different once you see the world from the inside out, or by cause and effect.

 

-Dehypnotize

– Note – If you’ve hypnotized someone literally and you can’t seem to  ‘un’hypnotize them,  contact a professional who should ‘re’hypnotize them to bring them out of the hypnotic state.

 

Black Friday 2012 Goes Online (Wal – Mart workers strike)

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I read an article the other day about Wal – Mart employees planning a walkout on Black Friday due to the invasion of family time.  Now I can totally agree with the employees here.  At what point does family become more important than profit?  What’s the point of having holidays if you’re not able to spend them with your family?  Holidays should be a time to take a break from the everyday chaos, not a time to create more.

But why would Wal-Mart do this?  How could they be so insensitive?  Because the people have demanded it.  The earlier that people were willing to get out and stand in the cold waiting for the doors to open, the earlier the stores begin to open.  So, now it’s basic supply and demand.  So, I totally agree with Wal-mart too.

Alas, someone in operations saw the light, “Why not put Black Friday deals online?” 

“Genius!” another responded.  We’ll allow people to order online and have their products shipped directly to them! Why didn’t someone think of this before?”

“I don’t know, maybe we thought that people wouldn’t go for it.  I think people actually like standing in line, in the cold……..(fictional story).

Seriously though, are most people that suggestible that they’d continue this behavior even with the option of not having to go through it?  I certainly hope not

The site listed below is a conglomeration of all of your favorite stores including the ones offering Black Friday deals.  Some of them even give you cash back for shopping online… think of the employees…

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There are plenty of great gift ideas none like the gift of time… shop Black Friday online.

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Why Republicans don’t get the “Black Vote”

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Obviously there are black Republicans but overall most in the African-American community vote Democrat.  Why is that? The last time I checked, most African-Americans disagree with Gay Marriage or Abortion according to most polls that is.  That’s funny because that’s what the Republicans stand for.  What about religious rights?  A majority (not all) in the black community believe in Christianity and everyone else is going to hell… so does the Republican agenda.

I was curious as to why the word Republican is a bad word in our community.  How is it that a party could represent a number of the same beliefs as a major demographic yet never get close to half the votes from this segment of the society? ….

It’s the language.  Democrats are seen as the party for the people and Republicans are seen as the party of old rich white men.  The problem with Republican Party is that they haven’t learned how to speak the language and no I don’t mean the lyrics to a hip hop song.  I mean they haven’t conveyed a message of care to the black community.   This is not to say that Republicans don’t care or even that its their job to, but that’s the point, people don’t respond to how things are, they respond more to how they appear to be.  Honestly, the biggest difference between most races, genders, parties or religions is… the language and language is communication and communication is behavior.   You can’t effectively spread your message until you learn the language of those with whom you’re communicating it to.  How else could you ever explain yourself?

It’s  funny how everything that happens on a microscopic scale happens on the macroscopic scale also.   What happens between political parties happens in our

personal relationships too.  We’re just little dots that make up a big picture or fractal geometric.  When these two parties were formed I can’t believe that it was based on how to best destroy a country. I’m sure the exact opposite was true, how can we make this the best country ever?  However, something gets in the way of that common goal and you already know by now what that is… Physicals vs Emotionals, Left brain vs. Right brain communication or lack thereof.  One cares about things and the other cares about feelings.  They believe the other to be sent from hell and work to eliminate this god awful threat to humanity.  Only to now become surrounded by like minds that compete for the same position.

Left or right brain, Physical or Emotional, Type A or B, Democrat or Republican, Wall Street or Main Street, it’s all opposing energy expressing itself as behavior.  One is not good and the other bad, one is not righteous and the other evil; they’re just opposites.  Right now our country is divided negatively because we choose sides to go to war instead of creating an opportunity to learn from the other.  Can you imagine where any country could be if they solved this riddle of the opposites?  What if the entire world got it?  I know that was too far.

So, to the Republican party, if you’d like to get more of the “black vote” you have to change your language, communication…behavior.  You have to communicate your message in a way that is received as caring about the people and not as pity or sympathy.  How would you do that?  Go ask!

A man who knows it all lacks heart and the man who feels it all lives in confusion but the man who knows and feels equally knows prosperity.

 

– Dehypnotize

 

 

Logically Emotional

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One doesn’t have to become a nueroscientist to understand that there are two sides of the brain and we tend to lean more to one side than the other.  What we typically fail to realize however, is how important learning the other side really is.  Take a look at the chart below:

 

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Which side best describes you most of the time?  Are you equally represented on both sides?  Which characteristics are presented that you don’t have but would like to?  Let’s take a look at how the our suggestibility and sexuality are represented in this chart.  Suggestibility being how we learn and Sexuality being how we act.

The Right brain or Physical behavior typically lives life from the present into the future whereas the Left brain lives from the future back to the present.  Meaning that the physical lives more for the moment and whatever happens, happens (feelings).  The Emotional makes present decisions based on what they perceive the future results will  be (analytical).  We call this the devil and the angel on our shoulder, one side is saying “Do it! Do it!”  While the other side is saying, ” think….about…ittttt.”  This means that we all have both sides, we simply suppress the subdominant side.  When we meet someone who is our opposite, we’re subconsciously aware of and a lot of times attracted to this behavior; only to become an enemy of it later.

Our opposites represent the physical manifestation of the other side of our brains.  This is what causes most of the troubles in relationships as it relates to communicating; which side is more dominant?  If one person feels that they’re not getting their fair amount of representation, they’ll begin to become more exaggerated in their behavior.  The emotional will become more distant and the physical will become more excited.  Bom …Bom…Bommm…and the fighting begins.

The riddle here is for each side to learn the other for your own development.  There are four parts to the equation, physical/emotional suggestible – physical/emotional sexual.  This means that there are two ways that we see and do things (physical or sexuality) and two ways that we hear and interpret things (emotional or suggestibility).  Ironically, we have two eyes, two ears, two sides to the testicles and the ovaries…all physical manifestations.  I’m beginning to think that there’s something behind this opposites thing.

I guess it all comes back down to learning who and what you are, the good and the bad if you want to call it that. Once we obtain that balance within ourselves, it becomes easier to recognize and or build it in someone else.  Alternating current or direct current mean nothing seperately, it’s not until they come together in a balanced equation do they make electricity or give power.

Our successes or failures come from the suggestions that have been placed in front of us along the way and how we’ve responded to them.  If you look closely at the brain it kind of looks like a maze;  it’s like we spend the majority of our lives trying to find a way out of it never realizing that the only way out is through.

 

– Dehypnotize

Evelyn Lozada – Ochocinco Back Together?

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When I first heard the news of the Evelyn and Chad (Ochocinco) Johnson fight, I wasn’t the least bit surprised.  Due to their Physical natures this was bound to happen sooner or later.  Shortly after hearing the news I published a post about how I thought this would turn out (see The Chad Johnson Evelyn Lozada – Therapy ).  In short, my take on this was, because they are the same personality type that they would seem to love each other like they’ve never loved before.  They’d see the turbulence in their relationship as passion and eventually they’d get back together in some capacity.  Since I’m no fortune teller, I left room for my prediction to be wrong… As I scanned the headlines of the day here’s what I found: Evelyn Lozada Wants To End No-Contact Order Against Chad Johnson (http://www.inquisitr.com/380022/evelyn-lozada-wants-to-end-no-contact-order-against-chad-johnson/)

Now this doesn’t mean that they’re back together and everything is fine, but it is a step in that direction.  You see, the thing with Physicals is that they are very connected to their emotions at any given moment which gives the appearance of being unbalanced, hot-headed, bi-polar, passionate and many more emotional labels.  Put two people of this personality together and get ready for the fireworks.

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As I’ve mentioned before, two emotionals together don’t fare much better.  Two Emotionals will take each other completely wrong and sabotage the relationship without ever knowing what went wrong.  Emotionals can be too ‘deep’ for there own good.  In the process of over analyzing everything, they neglect external communication and appear to be anti-social.

The best thing for any relationship is to be with your opposite.  Yes this has it’s own challenges as well but they come from not wanting to learn from the other behavior.  The brain is made up of a left side and a right side.  You lean more to one side than you do the other, your partner should lean to the opposite side.  This creates an environment for you to learn the side that you’re not using consciously.

This may sound too simple to be taken seriously, but this is the answer to all of our communication challenges.  I wish Chad and Evelyn the best in their future, but I’m also looking forward to see what entertaining news develops from this ongoing reality show.

– Dehypnotize

Kandi Koated Nights (Sex Toys by Atlanta Housewives’ Kandi Burruss)

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With the new millennium came a new attitude towards sex.  It’s actually not new at all, openness in sexuality has been around for centuries.  Religious teachings about sex merely ran sexual behavior underground.  This has caused deviance, passive aggression, shameful and all sorts of confused behavior in our societies.

The conversation of sexual satisfaction is rarely addressed in long term relationships.  One partner may feel inadequate when given suggestions on how to please the other.  In most cases someone ends up unsatisfied, fakes it or ends up cheating.  This is all due to the inability to communicate our most intimate feelings about our most intimate moments.

Kandi Burruss of Xscape and Reality TV show Atlanta Housewives has launched Bedroom Kandi an adult toys store and Kandi Koated Nights, an accompanying talk show to address open communication in the bedroom.  I commend her for her professional approach to such a taboo subject.  She’s an Emotional Suggestible/ Physical Sexual by the way; a lady in the streets and …

It’s ok to want sex to feel good and it’s ok to communicate to your partner when it doesn’t.  So, how do you tell your partner that things could be better without hurting their feelings?  Speak their language!  Are they Physical or Emotional?  Are they visual or kinesthetic?  These things matter because one partner will be into fantasy while the other could be more into physical stimulation.  Why not communicate about what you like in their language and allow them to do the same for the purpose of both people achieving satisfactory results.

The common misconception about sex is that everyone likes to do it the same way.  With just a little patience, you might find a whole new world to explore with each other if you’d only begin to have those forbidden conversations.  Sex in your relationship is not evil or shameful or bad, irresponsible sex is. 

Take time and get to know what the other person’s likes or dislike may be or get into each other before getting into each other. Everything that we experience is realized through the mind so why not start there and finish with the body?

In the end, our lives are ultimately what we make of them and we only have a short time to realize the benefits of making them what we truly wanted.  So, what are you waiting for?

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– Dehypnotize

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