Dream Therapy


Through the millenia dreams have played an integral part in the shaping of history as well as the present.  Because They are still largely a mystery, most people simply dismiss their dreams as unnecessary thoughts of the night.  Nightmares tend to stay with us longer because they incite more of our emotions just as with regular memories.

Have you ever dreamed that you’d hidden money in a particular place and once you were awake you went to look for it? Ha! I have…several times, of course it was never there.  What about flying or falling or the one I really hate; running or fighting in slow motion or not being able to move at all?  If you answered yes to any of these this says that certain types of dreams are very common separated only by our experiences.  Dreams can be influnced by the external environment.  For example, waking up from a dream that you were on fire only to realize that someone had turned on the heat in the middle of a Georgia summer.  They can also be influence by changes in the body.  For example,  the falling dreams are said to be a result of sugar level decreases through the night.

So what do our dreams mean?  Anyone that tells you that they can interpret your dreams is probably not being honest and/or they’re trying to make a few dollars of you.  If they tell you that they can help YOU interpret your own dreams, that is actually possible. You are the only one that knows what your dreams truly mean and an honest interpreter will only guide you back to a self assessment.

The key to understanding our dreams is first understanding that our emotions are the driving force behind everything that happens in our lives. When we experience our emotions while awake, we move on the in some way, that’s why they’re called e-‘motions’. However, our bodies are in a paralytic state while we’re asleep so we can only move within our minds once we feel them.  For example; do your dreams jump from one scene to the next and make absolutely no sense at times?  This is because as our feelings change, how and what we see changes as well.  Have you ever awakened from a nightmare sweating or screaming?  These were times when the emotions were too strong for the mind to move away from so the body had to react.

Dreams are ultimately stress release mechanisms. They’re like the garbage men of our system. The more stress that you’ve taken on throughout the day, the more active your dreams may be… a lot of garbage has to be taken out. If you find that you can’t get to sleep at times because of the stress from the day, it still comes back to those pesky emotions – it’s how you ‘feel’ about the stress of the day. The next time you can’t sleep because you’re thinking too much about a problem or an issue, try thinking about the useless emotions that you’re attaching to the situation instead of the situation itself. When you start to focus on how ridiculous it looks to exert so much energy over something you have no control over (it’s even worse if you do have control over it and you’re still stressing) your mind can relax and figure the problem out for you. Remeber…you have all of your answers, others can only show you how to identify and apply them. It doesn’t matter what anyone says to you, you still process life – the way you think.  At the end of the day our problems are not the problem…it’s our emotions.

Now I know that this doesn’t explain deja vu or prophetic dreams neither was it meant to, that’s another posting on its own.  This was meant to show that the images and symbols that we see in our dreams have only come from what we’ve experienced as individuals in our lives.

So, I’ll close by saying that the more you are able to control your feelings, reactions or responses through the day (there is a way to do this that I’ll address in an upcoming post), the more restful sleep you’ll have at night, which allows you to better handle the stress of the next day which allows for more peaceful sleep that night and so on…

Language Art (The art of Language)


Have you ever been in an argument with someone and it seemed that they just didn’t get it?  No matter how many ways you’d try to explain your side it seemed that you were speaking two different languages.  Well guess what, you were.

This post is going to show you how to ‘win’ most arguments.  The key is to first be a good listener.  We all have modalities of communication that are unique to ourselves. They are visual, auditory and kinesthetic. Although we all use some form of each, there is one that you’re prone to use more commonly.

For example: My modality is auditory, that means that I add weight to every word that a person says.  I pay attention not to just what they say but how they say it.  I mostly don’t look into the eyes of the person I’m speaking with because for me the visual is a distraction.  I want to hear any changes in your tone and your choice of nouns verbs etc.  It’s been said that if a person doesn’t look you in the eyes when they’re communicating…they’re lying.  No, whoever said that was lying.  Try this one day: Go to or find on TV, a live performance by your favorite artist.  Listen to them with your eyes open, then with them closed. You will notice a distinct difference in the two.  A person that uses the auditory modality will use phrases like, ” Do you hear me?” “Listen to me!” “Talk to you later.”  They tend to have what’s called the phone head…that’s when they lean their head to the side as if to say I’m really listening.

The person that uses the visual modality will speak in visual terms. “Do you see what I’m saying?”  “See you later.” or “Look, I’m trying to show you something.  You will also find that they’re normally looking skyward as if they’re seeing a movie in their mind….they are. They will describe their point by ‘painting a picture’ for you to see what they’re saying.

The last of these modalities is the kinesthetic.  This modality likes to touch. They don’t feel like you’ve gotten their point unless they’ve touched you in some way. They will use phrases like: “Do you feel me?”  Let’s touch basis later.” or “You’re not in touch with reality.”  Elaine from Seinfeld is a very good example of this modality.

When you have two people speaking in different modalities, it can be hard for them to truly understand each other because they’re speaking different languages.  The argument can only escalate from there and typically ends up with one calling the other names or worse; all due to not understanding the art of language.

So, next time you’re talking or listening to some else speak, pay attention the key words they use and use them back with them.  They’ll think you’re the best listener and sooo easy to talk to. Why? Because you’re …speaking their language.

That’s all for now.  Happy communicating.

– Dehypnotize

You might be…ll


If you…

Like to  hang out and socialize but your mate always wants to stay home

Are the touchy-feely type and like to get close so people really understand you

Would like to…or do have sex three or more times a day

Are the first to speak when you think you know the answer

(Women) have more guy friends, play brothers and cousins than girl friends

(Men) need to hang out with the fellas at least twice a week

PHYSICAL

If you…

Would just like a quiet evening at home sometimes but your mate keeps pestering you to go out

After having sex would just like to be left alone

Like to just get to the point and can be spared the details

Like to wait a few days between sexual activities to allow the passion to rebuild

Really only have one true friend and you talk more to them about your problems than you do with your mate

Are terrified of being recognized in front of an audience

EMOTIONAL

Most people thought that Brad and Jennifer made a great couple, unfortunately, they didn’t think so.  In a recent interview, Brad expressed that the relationship was boring.  I wonder why that was?  Because they are both emotionals.  Now look at how the relationship between he and Angelina is working out.  Because…Angelina is a physical.  You should consider this when choosing a mate, it will make your life a lot easier.  Can you think of any other famous physical/emotionals… here are a few I’ve come up with.

President Obama – Emotional       Michelle Obama – Physical

Will Smith – Emotional                   Jada – Physical

Stedman – Emotional                      Oprah – Physical

Kim – Emotional                              Kris – Physical

Tia -Emotional                                 Tamara – Physical

Ochocinco – Physical                       Evelyn – Physical ……hmm

Nick – Emotional                              Mariah – Physical

Frazier – Emotional                          Ali – Physical

Sexual Abuse (The Penn State Story)


After reading so much about this tragedy I decided to post my own thoughts about it.  Although I cringe at the very thought of these acts, I’m more interested in the cause than the result.  This post gets rather detailed so if you have a strong belief against this topic, I advise that you pick another one to read.

Let’s begin by taking a little trip to the distant past to find evidence of this same behavior.  As there’s nothing new under the sun, it shouldn’t be hard at all.  I recalled the stories of Caesar and a host of other well-known historical figures engaging in this same practice whether publicly or privately.  Ancient Greece had a completely different idea of homosexuality than we have today as did ancient Egypt.

The ancient Greeks did not conceive of sexual orientation as a social identifier, as Western societies have done for the past century. Greek society did not distinguish sexual desire or behavior by the gender of the participants, but rather by the role that each participant played in the sex act, that of active penetrator or passive penetrated.[5] This active/passive polarization corresponded with dominant and submissive social roles: the active (penetrative) role was associated with masculinity, higher social status, and adulthood, while the passive role was associated with femininity, lower social status, and youth. The most common form of same-sex relationships between males in Greece was “paiderastia” meaning “boy love”. It was a relationship between an older male and an adolescent youth. A boy was considered a “boy” until he was able to grow a full beard. In Athens the older man was called erastes, he was to educate, protect, love, and provide a role model for his eromenos, whose reward for him lay in his beauty, youth, and promise. (Reference Wikipedia)

The story of Horus and Osiris is much more detailed and adds a great deal more of shock value.  Google search that one if you’d like to know more.

Now, what does this have to do with an incident occurring thousands of years later?  A little thing called DNA.  Our DNA simply put is a memory program that has recorded every thought action and feeling our ancestors experienced and passed them along to us. We try to solve our problems from todays rules and standards and things just seemed to keep popping up.  For example the incident in Atlanta with Bishop Long;  if you were to look at the profiles of these men, they are definitely the more aggressive type.  The story of ‘300’ is another example of this same behavior.  The funny thing is that we’re shocked every time it comes up.

It is my hope that we at some point begin to address the issues of mankind from the source of the problem and not the results of it.  Shame, incarceration and embarrassment are only by products of the result of getting caught.  If there were more help available to these people who were most likely victims themselves, I believe we’d see significant decline in the amount of abuses taking place.

The world is no more than a conglomeration of different and varying opinions and right is based on how many people agree with you.  I forget who said this but it remains true “When a person is at their worst is when they need love the most.”  Please say a prayer for all involved.  Penn State

Bi-Focals


Have you ever thought about the fact that the only thing that separates how we feel on the inside from what we express on the outside is merely a very thin layer of skin…and for some of us hair.  Our eyes and ears record the stories of our lives.

Speaking of eyes, let’s start there. The eyes are like the lens of a camera and the brain a recording device. What the eyes see, the brain records for current or later use. Our brains are so powerful that we’re recording more than we can actually keep up with, but it’s still being recorded. The ears are the other key contributor here; they’re a function all to themselves.  You could very well be looking at someone but hear something completely different than what they said.  Now, the most intriguing part of this process to me is the transition between what went in and what comes out.  How we interpret and process what goes into us is what our lives are really all about. Its like we’re our own photo processing centers since no two people can physically see the same thing the same way; there become an infinite number of ways to see the same thing. So throughout our lives we’re constantly recording and storing data and emitting our interpretations of this data all over everyone else. Why do you think that is?

I see our minds as a sort of vortex. A place that an infinite amount of possibilities and realities all exist in the same place at the same time. However, what’s happening on the inside is affected by what’s going on outside. In other words aren’t we only products of what surrounds us?  All of our ups and downs are based on the environment that we find ourselves in; conversely the environment that we’re in is based on our decision to be there which was influenced by how we felt…

As I sit and write this blog I’m trying to get out of me the interpretation of a feeling that was created by afects around me as well.  There’s a riddle here to be solved.  How do I gain control of the world that is within when its being influenced by the world without?  Since babies we have strived to express what we felt inside to the world outside.  We dress up in our lies each morning and try to show that we have control over ourselves when just behind that thin layer of skin a plethera of feelings, thoughts and beliefs are dying to be exposed.

As I watch the process of the calamity that erodes the sanctity of the land in the Middle East, at times I almost find it funny how two peoples with (I’d put money on it) very similar DNA sequences, could hate one another so feverently.  This is all based on their belief systems and their insistance that everyone else possess the same.  We don’t even have to go that far to see this same behavior.  In our own homes, aren’t arguments simply that one person sees things differently than the other?

Time has a funny way of revealing things and it’s finally revealed to me that life is just the way we see it….

Drunk Drivers


My heartfelt condolences to anyone who has ever been affected by the irresponsible acts of a drunken driver.  As you’ll see later, all of us have been or have been affected by these careless acts of destruction.  This post looks to address the of the influence of ‘spirits’ or feelings on our everyday lives.

Here’s one definition of the word drunk – overcome or dominated by a strong feeling or emotion.  Hmm… anyone not fall into this category?  It seems that  we all struggle daily with our feelings and emotions and the decisions that we make based on them.  If you think about it, where you are in life now is based on the decisions that were made according to how you felt at the time.  The funny thing is that we continue to do this even if not being totally satisfied with our previous results.

It’s hard to conceive the idea that we live in the past, present and the future at the same time.  This is due to our perception of time.  For example, by the time you can say the word present, it’s already in the past.  The thought of saying the word is projected into the future ; the process of saying it is your present.  Now why is this important?  Because when you understand this concept, you will then be able to ‘control’ your future by simply extending the mental present into the physical future.  In other words you’ll become proactive in your life as opposed to reactive to your feelings and emotions.

Networks are making a fortune capitalizing off of these ‘drunk drivers’ under the guise of ‘Reality TV’ and they are none the wiser.  All they know is that trick better stop talking smack before she gets smacked!  I can see in real time the effects this behavior has on our communities; just read some of the posts on FB…smh

Your body is your vehicle and you know by now that your emotions are the alcohol.  Please take control of your car and manage your alcohol intake on all levels!

Break-Through


              

     Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, you always seem to end back up in the same place that you started.  You have the drive the determination and the plan but somehow it just never seems to work?  Well believe it or not there’s a reason behind this and fortunately there’s a ‘cure’ as well. 

     As humans we all have been designed with a little program called Homeostasis. 

     Homeostasis is defined as: The ability or tendency of an organism or a cell to maintain internal equilibrium by adjusting its physiological processes.

     This just means that your body and mind are programmed to remain the same. For example when you get cold, your body starts to shiver to bring its temperature back to normal.  When you get too hot your body sweats to cool itself down.  These are not conscious actions.  They are automatic or unconscious actions.  Although this states the physiological process, the psychological is also affected.

     So, as it relates to success or a change in lifestyle, you must first change the script that you’re operating from.  You must identify the examples that you were given in life to follow and make a conscious decision to change your programing.  You must attack the root of the problem in order to change the results of it. 

     Break-through is defined as:   To achieve success, make a discovery, etc, especially after lengthy efforts.

     In other words, imagine that thing that’s holding you back is a paper-towel.  Everyday you begin to add a pebble of accomplishment (towards your goal).  After a while the pebbles become too heavy for the paper-towel holding them back and you have (all together now)… a Break-Through. I know what you’re saying, “Well I already knew that, that’s simple”.  Yeah I know, things are so simple that we make them complicated.  Truthfully the only thing holding us back is ourselves.  There are no spells or curses (unless you consider your upbringing to one of these) it’s just what we’ve been taught. 

     One last example: If you were to take all of the money in the world and redistribute it equally, within a short amount of time, the same people who had the most money before will have it again.  Why?  Because its their mind-set.  It’s ALL of our mind sets.  We are where we have chosen to be in life.  If you’d like to change where you are…..dehypnotize!

T Scott