Lust is a passionate or overmastering desire or craving….(Physically)
Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment… (Emotionally)
Lust is a passionate or overmastering desire or craving….(Physically)
Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment… (Emotionally)
Although they have different meanings, these are both emotions that affect us in the short or long term. Lust takes control of our senses and won’t allow them to function properly; in other words lust is matter over mind. I think lust can be a good thing when it’s used correctly. I don’t subscribe to the idea that I was given the ability to feel extreme passion but if I feel it, it’s wrong.
As described in the definition, lust has to do with passion and passion is typically momentary. It’s not that you can be passionate about something over and over but it’s only in the moment that you feel it. The word itself comes with a negative stigma, placed there by someone who didn’t feel comfortable being overcome with passion. The problem with being overcome with passion is the decision-making process that follows. Typically there isn’t one. Once you’ve surrendered control to your feelings, logic takes a vacation; at least until the next morning.
Lust can make us do some silly things but love will make you do even worse things. This is why is hard for me to grasp the idea of love at first sight. In my opinion, there is no such thing. You can be extremely attracted to a person at first sight; however love is something that has to be built over time. This feeling gets confused with love often due to the ‘overmastering’ affect that it has on our emotions. I do believe that you can lust for a person and then grow to love them.
Love is like gravity, it’s comes across as a weak force but it’s ultimately what holds everything together. No matter how high our emotions may take us, love has a away of bringing us back to Earth. Love takes time because it requires understanding and this comes by way of experience; so how can you understand someone you don’t know or haven’t experienced?
So, don’t take the word love for granted, it is an investment of time, energy, sacrifice and so much more. Lust is simply a momentary feeling that once it’s gone has to be recreated by some other means. I believe that it causes more harm than good to tell ourselves that we’re wrong for having these feelings. Or better still that there’s a devil out there that’s causing us to feel the way we do. Just a bit of research would reveal why we see lust the way we do now; or why we view sex the way we do now.
If there is any wrong, it’s not understanding that these are human emotions and we all have them. The goal should be learning how and when to use them. If someone or something else causes your behavior, then you have no way of changing. However, when we take responsibility for our own actions change becomes inevitable.
It’s been said that an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. This will not show every reason or cure for abuse, I only hope to offer a pound of prevention for those who have or may suffer from abuse at the hands of a so called loved one.
If you’ve dated more than one person in your life, you know by now that everyone has at least two sides to them. The one they introduce you to and the one they actually are. This in and of itself is not a bad thing as we all would like someone that we’re interested in to see the best side of us. But how can we see the end from the beginning? It requires understanding yourself first! The type of person that you are determines the type of people that are attracted to you. Even the most beautiful girl with a rotten attitude will turn off most guys and conversely a not so attractive woman with a pleasant attitude increases her chances of finding a qualified mate. Most controlling men (Physicals) are not attracted to bossy (Physical) women for relationship purposes. It does happen but the relationship normally doesn’t last very long…typically due to violence.
So, in the dating game here’s how to identify a potential abuser. Someone that is ‘extremely’ nice to you and says all of the right things, calls every hour on the hour to shower you with compliments should be your first warning sign. Someone that is extremely nice on one side can be extremely dangerous on the other. If this person is a drinker and they most likely are, this is another indicator. If you were busy and couldn’t answer your phone when they called and they seem to be unreasonably disturbed by this, this is another indicator. All of these are the characteristics of an ‘extreme’ Physical. Stop making excuses for them and tricking yourself into believing that they do this because you’re so fine. This is a control mechanism that shows itself as flattery…at first.
Emotionals can be abusive as well. Here is how the Emotional becomes this way. They’re normally in a relationship with a Physical (male or female) and the Physical is not as tactful when expressing their feelings about an issue they’re having with their mate. The Emotional is notorious for taking things the wrong way so it makes a bad situation worse when they’re actually right about what’s being said to them. Physicals ‘can’ be very degrading and insensitive without even being in an argument. But when they are in a heated argument it can get even worse. They will get as close to you as possible, yell, scream, bite, kick, punch and will use any other physical means of getting their point across available. The Emotional typically doesn’t respond right away to this behavior but instead is keeping track of all of the incidents and name calling along the way. After internalizing these feelings for so long, one day the Physical may ask a simple question and a nuclear explosion results. The Emotional is extremely dangerous in this situation because they’ll let out all of the frustration that they’ve been holding in since it first begin. They even feel justified by doing so because they feel that they’ve given the Physical enough warnings to change their behavior but they continued to badger them. Please remember that silence is not an indication of being a coward.
Drugs and alcohol also play an extreme role in these situations. alcohol makes a person more of a Physical than normal; look at the behavior of a person who’s had too much to drink. They become loud and obnoxious, they keep touching all over you, they’re extremely happy or sad and their tempers are on display at the first sign of trouble. This is why there are so many fights in bar environments. Marijuana has more of an Emotional effect on behavior. Let’s look at what happens when a person smokes. They become very lazy, they put everything off until the next day, they analyze the sun, the moon, the lights, the wall, how they breathe and so on. Everything to them is happening in a slower motion, they even talk slower.
Abuse is wrong no matter who’s administering it, male or female, physical or verbal. It’s probably too much to ask for people to seek help with controlling their emotions so I’m only trying to give you a heads up on how to identify potential hazards. If you notice any of these extreme characteristics in someone that you’re interested in…run! They don’t get better, they only get worse especially if you’ve already allowed it to happen once.
Just as a side note, ‘extreme’ Physicals are the stalker type. If you tell them no, they come on even stronger…’because they love you so much’. Don’t fall for the I’m sorries and it won’t happen agains. It’s not that people don’t change, it’s just that they normally can not change without getting professional help.
I hope this was helpful.
Call for help if you’re a victim of abuse. 800.621.HOPE(4673).
Recently an anti Semitic politician was forced into a life changing situation when he discovered that he himself had jewish roots. After being confronted by an ex-convict about his grandmother being a Jew, Csanad Szegedi then tried to buy the silence of his whistle blower to no avail. He’s now began a confusing backtracking campaign to salvage what’s left of his public life in politics.
This was actually funny to me because of the irony involved. Although this is a clear example of how our beliefs get in the way of logic, there are many not so apparent examples that we encounter daily. This person is Catholic and this one is Protestant so they should hate each other to the level of being willing to kill for their opposing beliefs. It’s these very beliefs that keep us married to the ignorance of those that came before us.
Here’s another example: We’re in the one hundred fiftieth anniversary of the Civil War. Some argue that the Rebel soldiers that fought should be honored for fighting for what they believe in and others believe that the war was an ugly mark on American history and should be forgotten.
Who’s right or wrong in this situation. Well, let me say this and as always, you should come to your own conclusions. There was a time when it was illegal for African-Americans to learn to read… I still can’t believe that one. So, the result of this brilliant idea is that now there are still those who can’t read and don’t feel a need to learn how. Well that was three hundred years ago, some might say, what does that have to do with now. I’m glad you asked. It’s a little thing called DNA. DNA has memory and when this memory is combined with an environment of convoluted belief systems it creates an ever-growing cycle of willful ignorance.
So, why is this an issue? Well, an educated person has more financial opportunities than someone that is not. It’s not the economy, it’s education stupid. If everyone were afforded the same opportunities for quality education, there would be no need for affirmative action and welfare would be used for those who cannot physically work. There would be more people working and bringing more revenue into communities and neighborhoods, positively affecting the society as a whole. But now, what you see is that one segment of society is being held responsible for the welfare of another which creates more disdain and hatred.
So, in other words the very law that was created to keep ignorance alive and well worked. Now other laws have been created to try and reverse the effects of that brilliance. Hate is a virus and a tool of the unlearned to spread more debilitating consequences to our existence. We, then try to solve this riddle from the middle and become frustrated by the undesired results.
The resolution to this issue is not complicated at all… change these archaic belief systems on all sides! I know it’s ridiculous to believe this will ever happen but that doesn’t mean it’s not what should happen. It’s not our fault that we got to this point, however it is our fault if we stay here.
What is your definition of free will? Well let’s look at a definition of free to start. Free – Not under the control or in the power of another; able to act or be done as one wishes. So, how many people do you know that are not under the control or power of another. We’ve been told that in America we live in a free society however, there are rules and guidelines in place to ensure stability within the society. So, to use the word free in these situations is misleading. Just as with a credit card. To receive a credit means that you have gained without recompense. This is not the case with a ‘credit’ card; if you use your credit you’re now in debt so how could this be a credit. They should be called debt cards.
So, back to free will. If everything that we now believe came about by suggestion as to what’s right or wrong as it
relates to our environment, then how could the decisions we make be free will… they’re not. Now, do we have choices in life? Yes, indeed we do, but those choices result in reward or punishment, this contradicts the value of free. It’s like saying you have free will to choose the red button or the green one, however if you choose the red one you’re going to die. That’s not free will, that’s you being presented with options that someone else has determined the outcome of your decision… again that is not free will.
My point here is to bring an awareness to the misleading and hypnotic words and phrases that we’ve been conditioned to believe without question. We cannot expect to get positive results when we keep starting with a flawed equation. The universe itself is operates within rules and guidelines so how could we possibly have ‘free’ will.
So, the bottom-line is that we were given boundaries to work within, and we are able to make decisions based on what we think is right or best for us inside of them. These boundaries dictate however a limit to how free we actually are. Our perception of reality and what’s possible in it has been told to us and very rarely do we stray from this conditioning. We often hear or use the phrase think outside of the box, well this would mean that you’re already in one. So, before we can ever truly be ‘free’ we must understand that we have already been imprisoned by societal or physical laws and the decisions that we make have been influenced or ordered by our environment or by others that we consider to be authorities in our lives. So do we have free will? I guess we do have free will to make decisions inside of this institution that we call life.
This is a common phrase used by many men to describe the type of woman they consider to be marriage material. Women will also say they want a sensitive man that knows how to get a little rough when the moment calls for it. In each of these scenarios, what’s being described is a person of balance.
This is an example of an Emotional suggestible and a Physical sexual. This is a woman who carries herself in a more conservative fashion while out in public but is unstoppable in the bedroom. Most men will go for the quiet passive type for long-term relationship purposes but they’ll cheat on her with the ‘freak in the sheets’ type. This is where the idea that men are never satisfied comes from. No matter how much the main girl does at home it’s never enough. Why is this? It’s because the very thing that makes her a conservative in public makes her conservative at home. The Emotional sexual is not connected to their physical body the way the Physical sexual is. She needs to be warmed up before jumping right into sex, this brings their feelings to the surface. She’s normally not a risk taker and will chastise him for being too much of a risk taker. The man becomes frustrated by her lack of sexual energy and the ‘I don’t do that type of thing’ attitude and will find someone else who will ‘do that type of thing’. She finds out that he’s cheating, will not understand why and begins to blame herself for his actions or just tells him to get out and the
relationship is destroyed.
Now, none of this applies if you’re not in a serious relationship or marriage. However, if you are looking to be with this person for the rest of your life, there will have to be some changes. Just because you decide that since you’ve never done a particular thing that you never will doesn’t mean that your mate is going to say “Oh ok, then I don’t want to do it either”. It’s just like squeezing a water balloon, the bubble will just pop up somewhere else. So, aside from causing physical harm to yourself or going against your morals there should not be anything that you wouldn’t do for one another; especially if you’re married. Imagine living the rest of your life not being able to get what you want from the person you love just because they don’t want to…not a good feeling. If you’d like to bring scripture into this look up (Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled”). Chastity before marriage is great but chastity after marriage is a disaster.
There is more to this story such as the man that doesn’t want intimacy as much as the woman or how much is too much, but I’m trying to keep this as short as possible. So the bottom line is, once you’ve found that special someone, go all out for them as they should be going all out for you. This way they don’t even have the energy to see the freak in the streets.
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Sales can be a very grueling process…when you’re not making money. However, when your mojo is clicking and the sales are coming in there’s no better feeling. How do the most successful sales people do it? I worked in sales for a number of years and made a pretty decent living at it, I wish I would’ve known then what I know now about human behavior. We were required to attend sales training seminars and the speaker would go through the processes of how to identify a potential client, when to talk and when to shut up and so on. They provided valuable information but they never significantly improved my numbers so I just went for the free vacations…thanks!
First realize that whenever you talk to someone you’re selling them something or they’re selling you. Whether it’s an idea or convincing you that what they’re saying is right, it’s all sales. So, how do we incorporate this information into popping bottles? The trainers were correct in this, you must first identify the behavior type of the person you’re speaking with. You do this by allowing them to talk after you’ve introduced yourself and your reason for calling or being there. This will allow you to pick up on their modality of communication i.e. “Let me see what you have here” (visual) or “Let me get in touch with you (kinesthetic or feelings) or “I hear what you’re saying” (auditory). Identifying these keywords now gives you a door in.
The first rule of hypnosis is to listen, then build rapport and then create an emotional state in the subject using their words. It doesn’t matter what the product may be, if you don’t create an emotional attachment with it and the client…no sale. It’s really more about your sales technique than the product. I can’t tell you how many things I’ve bought that I didn’t need based on the sales person. Now, I may have thought that this person was really nice or they just made it sound so good but they had only hypnotized me momentarily. This happens in restaurants as well. A good waiter will come over and ‘suggest’ the days specials while using every adjective he/she can think of to describe the food. By the end of the spill you’ve forgotten what you really wanted and you’re ordering something completely different. This is building value in your product.
Overall I’d say, Physicals make the best sales people. This is due to their sociable personalities, persistence and never take no for an answer attitude. Emotionals are better with consultative selling than the in your face approach. Put the right personality in the correct position and you’ll see an increase in productivity. Speak literally and directly to the Physical and speak to the Emotional as if you really care about their issue. This gets you on the same page as the client and builds rapport. Use the words follow me or because from time to time, this sends a subconscious message to the client that you’re an authority or in control and that they should be following you. From this point take control, with both personality types and close the deal right then while the Emotions are still high. Don’t ask for the business, demand it. This process could take one visit or call or it could take three, regardless of the time frame, apply these principles and your success rate will increase.
So, to recap:
If you don’t close the next person you talk to, it’s ok, this takes practice.
Yes, I am writing about another reality show. These shows are perfect for identifying how the Physical and Emotional characters communicate; plus people are more interested in pop culture than being analyzed. So, here’s my break down of what I’ve seen so far on the show.
Scrappy and Erika
The problem in this relationship is that Scrappy and Erika are both Emotionals. Scrappy’s mom is definitely a Physical, look at how she’s involved with everything that he does. He may not know it but he’s really looking to be in a relationship with someone like his mom. Shay is a Physical as well and would actually make a better fit in a relationship for him than Erika. However, once they settle into their relationship (if they actually get into one) he’s going to say that she’s too bossy and that she acts like she’s his mother… I already see it. She will also ultimately bump heads with his mother because of the role that she plays in her son’s life and Shay will begin to see him as a momma’s boy. The relationship could work if they knew what they were up against… good luck to them.
Stevie J and Crew
Stevie J is also an Emotional. his status makes him more of an extrovert than he actually is. He uses this very status to control the women he comes into contact with, mostly physical women. It also seems that he uses the strip club to find some of his intended targets. This allows him to control the environment without relying on game or looks, simply money and reputation. Mimi appears to be an Emotional just by the way she puts up with all that goes on. He’s attracted to her because she’s more stable minded or at least less confrontational than the other women he encounters. They wouldn’t last in a normal relationship, they’d bore each other to death. Keeping her as his main chick is a way of holding on to some sort of stability in his life and she stays with him for the same reason. I don’t see things changing much in this situation. I could be wrong (I was one other time…lol) but I doubt it.
Kirk & Rasheeda
Kirk and Rasheeda’s issue is more with business than their personal relationship, although the business seems to be affecting that too. Rasheeda is an Emotional that’s why she comes across as being so cool. This is also why you’ve probably not heard of her until now. She’s like the cool girl in the corner with talent while someone without as much talent is in the spotlight. Emotionals are not good with showing or evoking emotions because they’re disconnected from or internalize them. The problem here is and is not her management. To be successful in entertainment you have to be an in your face character at all times and neither of them are extreme Physicals. Both of them are good at their jobs they’re just not a good business fit… to me. He listens to the things that she wants and tries to operate from that position or within that box. What she needs is someone that has a plan and vision for her career that matches her goals and then tell her what to do to get there. Business is business and relationships have a way of muddying the waters. So, I’d say to her (if I spoke to her about this) keep your business and your relationship separate it causes less stress. Also, you need to be more of a Physical if you’d like to see your career take off.
Joseline is of course a Physical, an extreme one, but she has exactly what it takes to become a star… she’s a character. Notice her style of dress and her willingness to confront anyone that opposes her and apologize when it’s all over. She also exposed the Emotional behavior in Mimi. After being threatened, Mimi spoke to Stevie about it and sent her response back through him and she’s holding a grudge about…at least that ‘s how it looked on the show. Physicals don’t do that, they will handle it right then and there regardless of the situation or outcome. As far as her getting into a serious relationship, that might not be in her near future. She’s such an extreme Physical, I’d be willing to go out on a limb and say she’s probably experienced some sort of abuse in her childhood. Again, I’m only guessing but this is typically the behavior of someone dealing with some hurt in their past.
So, there you have it. These people were chosen because of their personalities. That’s why you never see ‘normal’ characters on these shows… they’re boring. However, please keep in mind that television is the most profitable and successful hypnotist. If you find that your life is beginning to resemble a reality television show you may want to stop watching reality television…
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from all races, including my own. In spite of the title meaning to bring awareness, some people are being too sensitive right now. That’s ok because you’re the very ones this post is addressed to.
When people say that someone is to sensitive, they’re really saying that this person over reacts to things. This is simply extreme physical behavior. Whatever is felt is coming out… in an extreme fashion. I’ve heard this called being too aggressive or having animalistic tendencies and all sorts of uninformed epithets. So, if I could rephrase the title here it would say that black people are more of the physical personality than most. It’s important to make this distinction because until we remove the negative titles of right and wrong in others’ behavior, we’ll never see our desired results.
I read the other day that Bill Maher said that he wished President Obama would act more like a typical black than a Wayne Brady type. There was a mini outrage that he could be so insensitive when speaking about someone’s race. However, I heard what he said completely different. My interpretation of this was that he wished that the President would be more of a Physical than an Emotional and the President is definitely an Emotional; let’s see how this is so. He takes forever to make a decision, he’s been mockingly called an ‘intellectual’, he’s very calculating when he speaks and he’s married to Michelle…a Physical (or the angry black woman as I’ve heard her called). So, this is to say that his personality and/or decisions will appeal to those like him; Bill Maher I’m guessing is not one of those people. This again is a case of blaming someone for not being the way that you are. John McCain was also an Emotional and if you’ll notice, they both chose Physical’s as their running mates. Joe Biden and Sarah Palin are both Physicals. They were the attack dogs for their party and regardless of what you think or thought about their politics they were more visible in some ways than Obama or McCain. I promise I’m getting to a point.
So, some say that we need an attack dog as President while others feel that we need someone who’ll think things through before making rushed decisions; or in other words some want a Physical and others want an Emotional. What does all of this mean? It means that there are and always will be two sides to everything from politics to race; if blacks are more Physical, then whites would be more Emotional. Now, let me clarify this, there are Physicals and Emotionals in every race, however the degree of physical or emotional behavior will vary by race.
Although things are currently changing, there was a time when if someone black showed any signs of wealth, they had to be playing a sport or an entertainer of some sort. Today, the tide is changing and we’re seeing a more diverse selection of careers in our community, but why were we identified with those fields in the first place? Because we were physically larger or because we know how to dance (not all black people know how to dance by the way), because we’re said to have soul and we can ‘feel’ it more? These are all ‘feeling’ or physical things. Those that aren’t ‘feelers’ are thinkers and the thinkers thought of a way to get paid from the feelers expressing themselves all over the place (no control). Let me put it another way; a smaller opponent has to out think his adversary to win a battle; as the saying goes’ Brains over Brawn”. If you think that’s a myth, look around and ask yourself “who’s in control?” The thinkers are! It doesn’t matter the color race or gender, the thinkers run the world and everyone else sits around and complains about it..
Here’s an article from Nielsen:
The African-American population is, today, the largest racial minority group in America, with a population of close to 43 million. This market segment’s growth rate continues to exceed the overall population’s growth and is making continued gains in the area of education and income. The collective buying power of the African-American population is projected to be at $1.1 trillion by 2015. Collectively the group over-indexes in several key categories (television viewing, mobile phone usage and trips to grocery channels) and exerts a large influence on popular culture and trends, indicative of the high growth industries of the future.
Please go back and read the bold print one more time…please. I was almost in tears reading that, $1.1 trillion?! Seriously?
There should not be one black person living in the ghetto when we have a collective buying power of 1.1trillion dollars? We alone could pay off the national debt! Where is all of this money going? To Nike, Mercedes, Coca Cola, Wal-Mart, McDonald’s, AT&T, the nail shops, Polo, gold chains, Rims, hospital bills, funerals, ammunition, memorial t-shirts, musical equipment, 40’s, weed, need I go on? China should be thanking the black community for their new economic explosion. All of these things appeal to the senses and we fall for it every time. If you are indeed poor and not disabled, it’s because you make decisions based on how you feel more than on how you should be thinking. New clothes, new shoes, a new house; things, things, things. Most of what we buy depreciates in value the second we put our hands on it… that’s the true definition of a consumer (a destroyer). We consume our own wealth by eating drinking and clubing it away; that’s a form of cannibalism. Then we blame eevvverryoonne else for it, teach this to our children and the cycle or generational curse continues.
Please pay attention to the last part of the bolded sentence, indicative of high growth industries of the future. This means that since you’re going to spend $1.1 trillion on watching television, talking on the phone and grocery shopping…(smh) then we’re going to give you more of it!!!!! This keeps the cycle of feeding into your feelings and emotions going. Look at the three categories: the phone, “I’ve got to tell my friends what happened today.” The television – sitting around learning how to be more responsive to your urges by all of the suggestive content television provides. And finally, the grocery store; does anybody wonder why diabetes, cancer and all types of diseases plague our community? And no the government didn’t give us these diseases. We over indulge in everything that we do because we’re responding to our feelings.
We must simply learn to control…our…emotions! I don’t know if the show ‘The First 48’ just targets only black people or not but it seems that there are a ton of black murders and gangsters out there today. Whether they are targeting blacks or not, we shouldn’t be in a position to be targeted! I’ve seen too many memorial t-shirts, too many gangstas turn singers and too many body bags on that show for this to be some sort of illusion.
Crime itself is based on one’s inability to control their emotions. Too many of us are losing our lives over arguments and senseless over reactions to our feelings. Once you become angry and begin to act on it there’s no turning back. Your frontal lobes (the decision making portion of the brain) shuts down and you’re operating off of pure adrenaline. The next thing you know you’re somewhere in a corner crying and bleeding because you dropped the soap. We do rob from each other, we do kill one another and we get mad when other people say that we do… then stop doing it!!
Lastly, I’m tired of hearing about laws that are being made to help the poor and we are the ones that jump for joy! Why is that? It’s because we identify ourselves as poor or as coming from being poor. Stop that! You become what you identify yourself as, it’s self hypnosis! Now add to that that the thinkers are going to take your $1.1 trillion and use it to hypnotize you even deeper into the abyss of ignorance! Dumb A#%! I tell you what I’m going to do; I’m going to invest into television, cell phone companies and grocery stores. If people don’t want to change and think that those that do are sellouts then let them think that and make money off of them.
P.S. This doesn’t only apply to black people…
For anyone that hasn’t heard of Pastor Dollar, he presides over one of the largest churches in Atlanta. The arrest came after an argument with his daughter got out of hand and things got ‘physical’. Reports say that the daughter was injured and the pastor was subsequently arrested.
I chose to write about this case because it highlights a lot of the issues that we find ourselves faced with in the family. As it relates to the ‘Physical’ (the extrovert) they are the social butterflies, the ones that are not afraid to speak in front of large crowds or attract attention to themselves. Most, not all, but most pastors fit into this category. Because of their need to express how they feel physically, the Physical comes across as short tempered, controlling or bossy. Physical children would be the bullies in school or the jock or Mr. Popular. They are very image conscious and dress to express the importance of appearance. Family is their number one priority so they are very involved with every decision the child makes which can come across as over protective. Know of any preachers that fit this description?
We ‘mostly’, learn like our mothers and act like our fathers once we’ve passed our preteen stage. So, in this case (if all of the reports are true), the dad was really just trying to beat himself out of his daughter. Going out to her is just as important as it was to him at her age and he really liked going out when he was younger. Unfortunately I don’t think he understands that the more he tries to suppress her behavior the more she’ll rebel against what he’s teaching. How he handled the situation was truly from a position of love, but he lacks the understanding of how to convey this to his daughter in the way he truly means it. Ever wonder why they say preacher’s kids are the worst? It’s easy, because they’re just like their fathers but are being forced to suppress how they feel which creates an introverted physical…a disaster. We have to, have to, have to get that everything we do influences or affects our children in some way for the rest of their lives. We must learn the importance ofeffective communication and harming your child to get your point across hardly qualifies as effective.
I know that the obvious answer here is that it’s the devil, but hasn’t that been the answer for millenia with no change? I know we’ve all heard the quote about insanity so I’ll just say that if we want to see different results we must first ask different questions.
The first thing that you should know about hypnosis is that it’s not what you see on TV. What it is though, is a way to have a person pay absolute attention to your words while you speak or suggest things to them…like TV. To do this is very simple… whether it’s your boss or someone you’re in relationship with, you have to speak their language.
This requires the learned art of listening. Is this person a visual, auditory or kinesthetic communicator? Listen to the words they use such as, “touch basis with me later” (kinesthetic) or “see me about this later” (visual) or “listen, you’re doing great” (auditory). Identify your own method of communicating then pay attention to what styles the people around you use. A good exercise to do is practice using other styles of communicating with these people and watch how connected they’ll feel to you.
Have you ever had coworker that you knew didn’t know as much as you about the job but they got the promotion? They always come to you for answers but in front of the boss they take all the credit? Ha, gotta love’m. This person is typically the Physical, the Emotional is normally uncomfortable drawing attention to themselves but envy those that do. Just remember that people pay more attention to how things ‘look’ than how they actually are.
So is your boss a Physical or an Emotional?
The Physical boss is normally known as the jerk or a*#hole, very loud at times and comes across as insensitive. They’re like the sour patch kids,”at first they’re sour then they’re sweet.” They’re very ‘bossy’, quick tempered and always seem to be stressed out.
The Emotional boss is the one that comes across as your friend but turns on you when the heat is on. The Emotional doesn’t like confrontation so they go along to get along. They’re the quiet ones that won’t say what’s wrong with them until they’re handing you a release form.
To hypnotize anyone you must again speak their language. Speak literally or boldly to the Physical boss and inferentially or insinuate things to the Emotional. Every time that you speak with your boss suggest to them solutions to any challenge you come across. More importantly, get to them before that other guy does that got all of his answers from you. Emotional workers are more often looked over than the Physical because in all areas the Physical will make themselves seen or heard, while the Emotional will wait to be recognized…good luck.
Lastly, you don’t have to like the people that you work with, you just have to know how to communicate with them. Being the best communicator in the office automatically puts the focus on you, from there begin to suggest that you’re leader they’ve been looking for and take that position that you’ve been working so hard to achieve…the other guy is probably in the office with the boss right now suggesting that he’s the one.